Just venting and putting my thoughts to letters.
I try to be cordial and not cause trouble as much as I am able. However, this does not mean that I will allow myself, or my family to be walked over or treated with disrespect.
I have always been of the mind that good intentions don't amount to much in this world, and thus I give very little consideration to an individual's intentions; only their actions, the way a person comes across, and the results of a person's actions hold much weight with me.
I have very specific beliefs about what is and is not a person's business; my income and welfare being among them. Only two people in the world, as far as I am concerned, have any "right" to that information, myself being one, and my fiancée being the other. Anyone else, my family included, is only informed of such information if I or my fiancée see it appropriate. Note, Lydia and I are the only two persons who are entitled to make such a decision of appropriateness. No one else.
For anyone to press and pry into our affairs is rude, and disrespectful. A single inquiry with a polite reply is understandable, I do not expect anyone to read my mind and know my preferences on things of this nature. However, once that person has been informed that this is the state of affairs, I expect the subject to be dropped and left alone.
To continue to pry and insist you know better than me how to run my life is rude and disrespectful, and I will not sit and endure such action.
Today, I had to deal with such rudeness.
The inquiry is not the primary insult, of course. It was merely the catalyst to a larger issue.
The issue is how I and my fiancee see fit to run our lives. It is our life, and no one else's. No family member, no friend, no stranger, no aquaintence has any right to tell us how to live. It is our decision, between us and God, and no one else. No priest, no financial advisor, no culture has any authority to order or advise unless we ask for that advise.
If I desired someone's council, I would have asked for it. For an individual to insist on giving it without asking is an offence. To continue to offer it after being graciously informed the advice was unecessary, and to press the point is rude and unbecoming. Today, such nosy rudeness was pressed on me and Lydia. I responded with as much grace as I was able under the situation and left.
To say that such a prying slight was unexpected would be a lie. Thanks to the family grapevine, the poor opinions the individual in question holds were known to me. I do have ears. My fiancée communicates such matters to me, as communication is a key point to any relationship, most especially a marriage. I had hoped that prudence and standard politeness would keep this situation from manifesting. It was a small hope, but a hope nonetheless. Unfortunately, such a mercy was not bestowed on myself and Lydia.
I have dealt with such rudeness. I refuse to endure it again, unless a full apology is made and the method of behavior is ammended. Apology without repentance is no apology. It is a lie for convenience sake.
Anyway, vent over.
